Hello God!

Thank You for our Sundays. We are enjoying our lives and the world around us together. Last Sunday we were preparing our kite to the first flight. The flight was superb. We were seeing in the sky together, our eyes were flying with our kite, we were walking hand in hand, joking and laughing  –  these moments were perfect and miraculous!

We are the happiest family in the world … because we have a discipline to keep ourselves happy. We are working on and building our happiness together. Joy is a job and William Glasser confirms this statement.

In “Positive Addiction” by William Glasser I am reading: “Each individual finds them (happiness) in his or her own way, but in general everyone finds them through: 1. love – that is,through loving and being loved, and 2. by doing something one believes is worthwhile.

To find the happiness we all desire we have to figure out: 1. what to do, 2. how to do it, and 3. where to get the strength to get it done.”

Where to get the strength to get finding happiness done? That is the question. “Positive addictions strengthen us and make our lives more satisfying”, William answers.

“It seemed that a positive addiction was something a person chose to do, did by himself\herself, took some discipline to do it, believed in what he/she did, and did it on a regular basis.

I was now convinced that positive addiction is a valid idea, that it is open to anyone who has the discipline to try it, that somehow or other it can help people to become a great deal stronger, and this strength can be used in any facet of their lives.

As I gathered data, I established the criteria for a positive addiction. It had to be something that definitely benefited you, that you did at least a half hour to an hour a day regularly that you became good at, that you believed in, and that you suffered withdrawal pain from if you tried to quit it.”

“The implication of positive addiction are wide. You can try to get involved in an activity that you believe in. If you get involved in it on a regular basis, are non-self-critical in the process, and your mind begins to spin out or transcend, you’ll eventually became addicted to the activity. Once addicted, you’ll grow stronger, and this strength will be available to be used in any way you wish to make your life better,” William Glasser wrote in 1976.

I am addicted to make my family happy by keeping myself in good state of body, mind and soul. I am positively addicted to playing the piano, learning French, reading, blogging, swimming, meditating, writing affirmations, baking with my daughter, cooking our favorite dishes. I honestly tell you that to keep myself in happy state demands on strong discipline. Even to laugh is a job sometimes it is hard especially when I am immersed in my ego. 🙂

“What they always seem to have that makes them strong is that no matter how many problems they face they rarely run out of options. Unlike the weak, who tend to give up and then choose symptoms to reduce their pain and perhaps later become addicted to get some pleasure in their lives, strong people never seem to be at the end of their rope. They almost never lock themselves into one pattern of thinking and behavior.”

I love that “never lock themselves into one pattern of thinking and behavior”. I am trying to think out of the box when I deal with my pessimism. I am strong enough to smile and meet my experience with grateful heart. The last sentence is from my affirmations I write every day, in reality I am not so perfect.

And, as Glasser says: “Unlike the weak, the strong neither give up nor are driven by pain into rash or stupid behavior. They don’t like pain any more than anyone else, but they are not willing to settle for short-term relief if it means reducing their options later. They don’t rob Peter to pay Paul, they face reality now.” That’s what strength is all about. The belief in ourselves and the strength to stand in the face of a challenge and not choose to give up.

Thank You for this possibility to share with you some wisdom from great person. Thank You for reading and being with me at this very moment. I do hope You are smiling now and with this easiness and light I am saying you “Good Night! I wish You to fly tonight!”

Below I am sharing some photos of our happy Sunday!

 

 

 

We are the Winners of Green Card Due to We are Perfect Life!

We are the Winners of Green Card Due to We are Pure Love!

We are the Winners of Green Card Due to We are Pure Luck!

Hello God!

Thank You for our happy Saturday. We are Your Masterpieces and we are creating with You and by Your Inspiration our happiest way in Universe.

As I promised yesterday tonight I am writing about books by Brene Brown. You know a second ago I tried to add a fit adjective to her name but I could not because I am on the verge of my fascination about her personality and creative works. She is just Brene Brown. I introduced with her on the TED conference two years ago. And I thought what the beautiful woman she is – light lives in her eyes and smile. I believe in every words she says and writes.

She writes about things which touch my own painful places: shame, vulnerability and acting on the arena. You know I am stay at home mother of 4 y.o. child who dreams about self actualization in future. Now my arena is here. This is my blog where I improve my English writing and expand my knowledge in different areas and ect. I think it is right way to find a new job. And I fear to fail and to manifest myself as The Person. I am certain in nothing which refers to my actualization. I am vulnerable and scared.

Brene teaches me that to be vulnerable is good and normal. More than that vulnerability is the only door to greater intimacy. She said in interview  with Oprah:”Vulnerability is when my husband and I are on the verge of a fight and I say, “Let’s stop, because I’m making up this story about what’s happening right now, and it’s that you don’t think I look cute or you’re disappointed in me,” and he’s like, “What are you talking about?” And I say, “I love you, and I’m in fear right now.” You know I recognize my words I am saying to my husband. I am courageous to accept my fears in front of my husband. It is good step to the arena. Thank you, Brene for sharing your own courageous experience.

The book “Daring Greatly” was born because of Teddy Roosevelt speech in 1910. In it, Roosevelt said:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again,because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”

We are all connected I know. We are sharing each other’s inspiration and growing our creativity. In difficult time of vulnerability Brene had met inspiration of Teddy Roosevelt and a good book was born. It is Miracle. It is Connection. “Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment.”

“Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. The power that connection holds in our lives was confirmed when the main concern about connection emerged as the fear of disconnection; the fear that something we have done or failed to do, something about who we are or where we come from, has made us unlovable and unworthy of connection,” Brene writes in “Daring Greatly”.

I hope some day I will share my inspiration for creating a new good book. “People always say to me, “I want to go into the arena, but I’m scared. Can I take a little armor with me?” But one thing I have found in my life is that the only thing you need when you go in is clarity of values and faith. As in, “This is the article I wrote. And if you think I need to lose weight or that I suck, that’s okay. I’m standing on my faith and my values. You cannot knock me over,” Brene told to Oprah.

“When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make,” says Brown. “Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience.”

“Shame is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging. Love and belonging are the irreducible needs of men, women, and children. In the absence of these, there will always be suffering.”

As a mother my special “Thank You” to Brene for “Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto”:

“Above all else, I want you to know that you are loved and lovable. You will learn this from my words and actions…. You will learn that you are worthy of love, belonging, and joy every time you see me practice self-compassion and embrace my own imperfections. We will laugh and sing and dance and create. We will always have permission to be ourselves with each other. No matter what, you will always belong here. As you begin your Wholehearted journey, the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly.”

Thank You for this very moment to have a possibility to write these words. I understand and accept that from this very moment my life, life of my daughter, life of whole Universe is changed forever because of Inspiration and Courage of Brene Brown. We are happier and lighter now. Our arena of life is the place for joy, love and connection.

We are the Winners of Green Card Due to We are Perfect Life!

We are the Winners of Green Card Due to We are Pure Love!

We are the Winners of Green Card Due to We are Pure Luck!