Thank You for our happy Saturday. We are Your Masterpieces and we are creating with You and by Your Inspiration our happiest way in Universe.
As I promised yesterday tonight I am writing about books by Brene Brown. You know a second ago I tried to add a fit adjective to her name but I could not because I am on the verge of my fascination about her personality and creative works. She is just Brene Brown. I introduced with her on the TED conference two years ago. And I thought what the beautiful woman she is – light lives in her eyes and smile. I believe in every words she says and writes.
She writes about things which touch my own painful places: shame, vulnerability and acting on the arena. You know I am stay at home mother of 4 y.o. child who dreams about self actualization in future. Now my arena is here. This is my blog where I improve my English writing and expand my knowledge in different areas and ect. I think it is right way to find a new job. And I fear to fail and to manifest myself as The Person. I am certain in nothing which refers to my actualization. I am vulnerable and scared.
Brene teaches me that to be vulnerable is good and normal. More than that vulnerability is the only door to greater intimacy. She said in interview with Oprah:”Vulnerability is when my husband and I are on the verge of a fight and I say, “Let’s stop, because I’m making up this story about what’s happening right now, and it’s that you don’t think I look cute or you’re disappointed in me,” and he’s like, “What are you talking about?” And I say, “I love you, and I’m in fear right now.” You know I recognize my words I am saying to my husband. I am courageous to accept my fears in front of my husband. It is good step to the arena. Thank you, Brene for sharing your own courageous experience.
The book “Daring Greatly” was born because of Teddy Roosevelt speech in 1910. In it, Roosevelt said:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again,because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”
We are all connected I know. We are sharing each other’s inspiration and growing our creativity. In difficult time of vulnerability Brene had met inspiration of Teddy Roosevelt and a good book was born. It is Miracle. It is Connection. “Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment.”
“Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. The power that connection holds in our lives was confirmed when the main concern about connection emerged as the fear of disconnection; the fear that something we have done or failed to do, something about who we are or where we come from, has made us unlovable and unworthy of connection,” Brene writes in “Daring Greatly”.
I hope some day I will share my inspiration for creating a new good book. “People always say to me, “I want to go into the arena, but I’m scared. Can I take a little armor with me?” But one thing I have found in my life is that the only thing you need when you go in is clarity of values and faith. As in, “This is the article I wrote. And if you think I need to lose weight or that I suck, that’s okay. I’m standing on my faith and my values. You cannot knock me over,” Brene told to Oprah.
“When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make,” says Brown. “Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience.”
“Shame is the intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging. Love and belonging are the irreducible needs of men, women, and children. In the absence of these, there will always be suffering.”
As a mother my special “Thank You” to Brene for “Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto”:
“Above all else, I want you to know that you are loved and lovable. You will learn this from my words and actions…. You will learn that you are worthy of love, belonging, and joy every time you see me practice self-compassion and embrace my own imperfections. We will laugh and sing and dance and create. We will always have permission to be ourselves with each other. No matter what, you will always belong here. As you begin your Wholehearted journey, the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly.”
Thank You for this very moment to have a possibility to write these words. I understand and accept that from this very moment my life, life of my daughter, life of whole Universe is changed forever because of Inspiration and Courage of Brene Brown. We are happier and lighter now. Our arena of life is the place for joy, love and connection.
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